I
believe a pastor must address these issues if he is to be faithful to Christ.
He must do it correctly, but it must be done. Today, I want to give reasons why
a pastor must address these issues. Later, I will talk about how I address
these issues. There is probably more disagreement on the how than the why among
Christians. Yet still we must lay a solid foundation of why a pastor can speak
on these things before we get to the how he should speak on them. Throughout
this paper I use the word “teach” a lot. Do not assume that I mean only public
teaching. By teaching I mean a combination of public and private ministry of
the Word. Here are the reasons why a pastor must teach on sexual holiness in a
frank manner:
1.
The Bible addresses almost every
conceivable sexual act. Incest, rape, bestiality, lust, prostitutes, adultery,
fornication, sodomy, etc. are all mentioned in the Bible (See Leviticus 18). On
the positive side you have the Song of Solomon, Proverbs 5:15-23, and I
Corinthians 7:1-5. Of course, it is not done in a pornographic way, but these
issues are addressed. If the teaching is handled correctly, which I will admit
is not easy to do, there is no reason to be squeamish about discussing them.
2.
Sexual sins are a major part of the
Biblical teaching on sin. Here is a list of some of those sins: Lamech’s
numerous wives in Genesis 4, attempted sodomite rape in Genesis 19, incest in
Genesis 19, the sexual sin of Israel in
Numbers 25, Samson and the prostitute in Judges 16, the rape of the Levite’s
concubine in Judges 19, David’s sin with Bathsheba in II Samuel 11-12, Jesus’
teaching on lust in Matthew 5:27-30, Paul’s discussion of sleeping with a
prostitute in I Corinthians 6:12-20, and the mention of a “Jezebel” who seduces
men to sexual immorality in Revelation 2:20. And I could mention dozens of
other passages. Sexual sin and sexual righteousness are not a blip on the
Bible’s radar. They are a central theme in the Scriptures.
3.
Based on 1 and 2 above I would
argue that it is impossible for a pastor to be faithful to the Scriptures if he
does not address various sexual practices and how to approach them biblically.
4. Also our cultural context demands a
frank discussion of sexual issues. This is one shift from previous generations.
A pastor in previous generations did not have congregants (men and women) who
had watched hundreds of hours of pornography prior to marriage. He did not have
congregants whose views of sex, marriage, and love had been shaped by romantic
comedies. He probably did not have men who experimented with
homosexuality. Of course, there has always been sexual sin or lust. But sexual
sin has grown more prevalent over the last several decades, especially with the
internet, where one can view pornography, find willing sexual partners, and
read all about the sex lives of celebrities.
Add into this mix sexual education at the public school, the failure of
even Christian parents to faithfully teach their children about sexual holiness,
and the failure of churches to teach on these matters and the pastor will find
that most men and women coming into marriage bring a dump truck full of sexual
baggage that they do not know what to do with. A pastor cannot just ignore this
baggage. His job is to make disciples.
Sexual holiness is a major part of that discipleship process.
5.
But should a pastor discuss sexual
practices not explicitly addressed in the Bible? Does a pastor just ignore these
practices? Can he just assume that
people will get this right without any explicit teaching on the matter? The
answer is no. Basic teaching on sexual
matters and the Gospel will cure a lot of ills. But the pastor is there to
shepherd the people. This means he needs to have an answer when someone asks about specific sexual practices or when he finds out people are practicing certain things. The Bible touches every area
of our lives. We do not have a verse for every area, but the principles laid
out in God’s Word can be applied to all areas. So yes, if there are common
sexual practices or sexual practices that he finds out members are engaged in,
even if they are not addressed explicitly in the Scriptures, he should teach on
them.
In summary, the Bible gives the pastor the
authority and duty to address sexual sin and sexual holiness. This means issues
directly addressed in the Bible should be taught on, but also common sexual
issues not directly addressed should be taught on using Biblical principles. In
our current cultural climate a pastor should expect that addressing the past or
present sexual sins of his congregation will be a regular part of his
counseling, teaching, and preaching load. He should be prepared to shepherd
men, women, and couples through these problems.
There are a lot of potential dangers when one
seeks to address these matters. For example, can I address these matters
honestly without being crass or violating Ephesians 5:3-4? When and where should
a pastor address sexual issues? How can they be addressed without causing a man
struggling with lust to stumble? How can women be counseled on these matters?
How does a pastor address sexual abuse? I will address some of these issues in another
post. It is a thorny path one must walk down to disciple the congregation in
sexual matters. But a man who is committed to Scripture and loves his flock has
no choice.
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