C.S. Lewis is a master of the human
heart. He understands very clearly the dangers that come, not only with hurt, but
with pleasure and joy. We assume that it
is the wicked, evil things that destroy us. But all too often it is the good
thing, that which is beautiful and enjoyable becomes a bloodthirsty demon. Why? We replace the Creator with the
creature. The creature, the thing, the
experience, becomes our god. We long for it without God, instead of under God. The moment we do that we have brought home a dragon that will
eventually eat us.
All areas of human experience are prone
to this idolization. But there is no
area so easily worshiped today as sex.
Our culture is sexualized beyond anything seen before. Even past sexual cultures, such as Rome, were
not as sexual as ours. Our commercials are filled with sexual innuendo or
scantily clad women. Our teenage daughters wear more to bed than they do on the
street. Television shows and movies are
filled with sexual imagery. Songs are filled with sexual lyrics. Magazines have
articles on how to have a better sex life. Christians write books on how to have a better
sex life. Pastors preach sermons on how
to have a better sex life. Apparently, a better sex life is the way to
happiness.
But it is important to understand that what people want is not a particular man or a particular woman to have sex with.
They want a particular experience. A man
watching pornography does not want the porn star. He wants what the porn star
can supposedly give; a sexual high. A woman who sleeps with men at the drop of
hat or dresses with most of her body showing is not looking to please a
particular man. She is trying to get a particular experience. Often, even the Christian, because he or she
has been catechized by our culture, is looking for a particular sexual experience. In other words, we bow down and worship sex.
It is our god, our great savior. It is the
transcendental experience that will get us closer to God.
What are some of the effects of this
idolization of the sexual experience?
1. Women
are degraded. Because women are the weaker vessel they become objects. Like a vending machine they are there to provide a
certain product. But instead of soda they give sex. This viewpoint does not
stop when men get married. Many men still view their wives this way after the vows are said. She is there, not be loved, but to be used.
2. Children
are sexualized. They can provide a new and better experience. Pedophilia is a natural extension of the
idolization of sex. A woman cannot
provide a certain experience maybe a child can.
3. All
sorts of gross and perverted acts become part of the normal human sexual
experience. Handcuffs, dressing up as
the opposite sex, having numerous partners, watching pornography together, etc.
etc. When sex is an idol she is supposed
to provide a certain experience. However, she always comes up short. So we try
more and more things. I remember an interview
with mass murderer Ted Bundy. He talked about how he started out watching
pornography. Then he went to strip clubs. Then he slept with prostitutes. Then
he began taking cheap feels on women in crowded places. Finally, he began to
kidnap, rape, and kill women. Of course,
very few men go that far. But in our hearts, many of us walk that path of wanting more and more. The man who leaves his wife for a younger, more attractive woman has the exact same motivation as Ted Bundy.
4. We
are never satisfied. Idols always take.
They never give. So it is when sex becomes an idol. Idols promise, but in the
end they never deliver. They say, “You too can have amazing sex and be
fulfilled.” But in the end the sex leaves you empty and dead. Oh, there may be
a temporary pleasure. I am sure the fruit tasted good to Adam and Eve. But that
pleasure quickly fades and we are left wanting more. As Adam drove that spade into the rock hard
ground under the hot sun outside the Garden, I doubt he thought that fruit was
worth it. Idols give salt water to the thirsty man.
5. This
might seem odd. But one effect of idolizing sex is that sex itself is
degraded. It becomes a means to an end.
The end is an experience. The end is not sex. The end is certainly not the
person one is with. Thus sex becomes like a hammer. It is a tool to provide a
certain service. Here again is C.S.
Lewis: “Put
first things first and we get second things thrown in: put second things first
and we lose both first and second things. We never
get, say, even the sensual pleasure of food at its best when we are being
greedy.” When the sexual experience becomes the first thing we lose the pleasure of sex.
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